Don't cry for the overturned milk cup

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Don't cry for the overturned milk cup there is a Western proverb, don't cry for the overturned milk cup, but many people can't really understand its meaning

a teacher in a middle school in New York gave his students an unforgettable lesson

the teacher found that many students are always full of anxiety after handing in the examination paper. After the examination, they actively "correct the answer", check which question they have made a mistake, and often feel uneasy about the question they have made a mistake, which will affect the next examination of other subjects and even affect the next study

one day, the teacher was talking about chemical experiments for the students in the laboratory. He put a bottle of milk on the edge of the test-bed, which was easy to touch. All the students did not notice the bottle of milk. During the experiment, a student touched the milk bottle, which fell to the ground and broke

when the students were at a loss to break the bottle, the teacher shouted to all the students: "don't cry over the spilled milk!"

then he called all the students around and asked them to look at the broken bottles and the dripping milk on the ground, And say word by word: "Take a closer look. I hope you will always remember this truth. The milk has run out and the bottle has broken. No matter how you regret or complain, there is no way to restore the bottle. If you think about it in advance, take precautions, and put the bottle in a safe place for statistical analysis and solution of the actual information, the bottle of milk can still be saved. But now it is too late. What we can do now is to put it Forget it, and then pay attention to what's next. "

the teacher's words are saved automatically; After the experiment, the test parameters can be queried to show that the students have learned knowledge that they have never had in the textbook. Many years later, these students are still very impressed with this lesson

maybe you think it's a cliche not to cry over the overturned milk cup. Indeed, this sentence is very common, even some cliche. However, it cannot be denied that the wisdom contained in this sentence has been verified by countless people

but in real life, many people often forget this sentence

an entrepreneur gave a very important thing to his trusted confidant. As a result, the confidant messed up the matter and made him suffer huge losses. After that, he became angry at his mistakes. As a result, he lost sleep for several nights, was in great pain, and his relationship with his man was very stiff, but the problem was not solved at all

what's more, this incident also reminded him of a lot of Futures: the small setback before the coke 1501 concussion went higher, and he tortured himself in frustration and disappointment

this kind of self abuse lasted for one year. He was not completely free from the pain until he appealed to a psychologist for help

when mistakes occur, our usual response is: "really, it's wrong again. What bad luck!" If someone else makes a mistake, he will say, "you have made a mistake, and you must be responsible for it." In fact, this is the root cause of low efficiency

Western proverbs don't cry over the overturned milk cup. As an old Chinese saying goes, no matter how upset, complain, or beat the capital, it's useless if a mistake has occurred. It's better to clean up your mood, focus on how to solve the problem, and avoid the same mistake in the future

in other words, you can try to change the consequences of what happened three minutes ago, but you can't change what happened three minutes ago; You can't turn back time and make mistakes that have become a fact disappear, but you can make mistakes the cornerstone of your future success. The only way to make the multilayer materials produced in the past known as graphene nanosheets (GNP) valuable is to calmly analyze the mistakes made at that time, learn from the mistakes, engrave the lessons in mind, and then forget the mistakes. Don't forget, you have to face a new life. It takes courage and wisdom to do this

this is a well-known saying. It is a philosophy of life that can benefit people both in life and work. If, as a leader of an enterprise, he can accept employees' mistakes and actively help employees find solutions to problems instead of complaining and investigating blindly, it will greatly improve the efficiency of the enterprise and create a positive and positive culture internally

this article is extracted from the book "talent is possible" (end) written by Hu Bayi, chief consultant of Bloomington management consulting group

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